Coma Sex

Do you think it is immoral to have sex with your girlfriend if she is in a coma?

A Do Not Resuscitate (DNR) order is asking you not to do your job, so most written coma requests are asking you not to something you would normally do. You can get a divorce if you don�t have sex so this seems to imply that if you don�t want to have sex when your in a coma some sort of "Do Not Ride" order is needed.

"But what if there aware?" Surely being aware is more reason for the jiggery pokery, how boring would lying there be an occasional bit of hanky spanky with your boyfriend has to break the monotony?

"But the unpleasantness factor." Many unpleasant people engage in sexual acts I find unpleasant, that does not give me the right to tell them what two consenting adults can do.

"Anything less than full active consent is not consent." With a stranger yes but with a girlfriend there is a certain implied consent. You can rub yourself off your girlfriend and she can then tell you to fuck off, but you cannot rub yourself off a stranger.

The question seems to boil down to does consent default to yes, "go ahead unless I say no" or default to no, "wait till I say yes before you do anything"?
Realistically after the first few times it defaults to try it on unless she says or acts in a way that shows she is not interested does it not?

There was one of those list things in Cosmo, I was shown it honest. One element of the "great sexy ways to surprise your man" was to wake him up with you having sex with him. This has to be much worse the coma sex; you have someone who can actively consent who your removing the right from.

So opinions or thoughts, do we need "do not ride" orders?

Thu Jul 13, 2006 9:38 am MST by cavedave | Email Article |

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I don't know what the ethics are here - all I know is I'm putting a list together right now of people who are allowed to have sex with me if I'm ever in a coma. Alphabetically starting with Angelina. My lawyers are going to go over it tomorrow morning so pray that nothing happens to me until then.

Mon Jul 17, 2006 1:15 pm MST by Paul

The 'surprise wake up' is definitely a powerful example in that discussion - especially if your feelings towards such a surprise alarm call contradict your thoughts regarding coma sex. It's a difficult topic because the usual two consenting adults approach (the idea that if two people are okay with doing something and above the age of consent, as long as nobody else is harmed its their business) is not easily applied. While the partner of a comatose person might well know what that person would want, other people feel the need to act on behalf of those who cannot act themselves, wether they knew them or not. I don't think there is a general answer here; definitey a topic that would have to addressed on a case-by-case basis. For myself I wouldn't want to get jiggy with a comatose girlfriend - for me the act is as much about the two people as it is about pure pleasure, and I don't think I could have one without the other. Not attracted by the idea of a morgueasm, you know?

Mon Jul 17, 2006 1:05 pm MST by Luke

reminds me of Kill bill.....that would put me off thoughts of pulling this stunt!....but i have to say, i like the way your mind works ;-P

Fri Jul 14, 2006 11:24 am MST by Lupansensei

well seems like its true what they say: "Dead girls dont say no" i think this applies to coma as well? Consciousness in coma is still very unknown, so maybe your gf would be asking for sex but she just cant communicate it! Maybe tomorrow science discovers that it helps getting out of coma! Meanwhile stay away from hospitals, police goes crazy if you are caught doing certain things...

Thu Jul 13, 2006 3:30 pm MST by AndreaG

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